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The Power of persuasion

[UPDATE Feb 11 2010] I now have a dedicated blog about public speaking. You can and read an updated version of this article and read more write-ups of workshops I have attended.

Last night I attended a workshop called “The Power of Persuasion” lead by Simon Bucknall, twice winner of the Toastmasters Great Britain and all Ireland public speaking championships. The course contained lots of insightful advice about persuasion in public speaking.  Furthermore there were two prepared speeches (both number nine in the CC manual: “Persuade with Power”) followed by group discussions to analyse what worked and what didn’t.  Overall it was a fantastic workshop and I extend my thanks to everyone involved in the organisation.

I took lots of notes during the workshop.  To further familiarise myself with the content, and for the benefit of others, I’ve typed up some of the key points that were made.

First Half: Audience Buy-in

Passion - Simon asserted that that passion for what you are selling is the most important aspect of persuading effectively.  He described how, in previous jobs, he found his ability to sell was hindered by his lack of enthusiasm for the products.

Emotional Response - If you win the heart then the mind will follow.  The most powerfully persuasive speeches illicit an emotional response.  A previous international speech winner’s method for creating passionate speeches: take your inspiration from books/films/media and think about your emotional response to it - then try and recreate that emotional response within the audience.

Audience Buy-in - The audience should have a reason for listening to you - a “buy-in” for your speech.  He suggested using the following three steps:

  1. Establish the mindset of the audience. Identify the emotional state of the audience by doing research or asking directly.  Are they already sympathetic to the cause? Are the bored and don’t want to be here? Many people are too keen to focus on the end result or make assumptions about the audience’s situation.
  2. Reference/address what that might be. Empathise with the audience situation “Who doesn’t want to be here?”.  This will help to make a speech a “shared journey” rather than one person ordering the other.
  3. Setup and incentive. Why they should listen to you?  Why they should join you on this journey? What they can get out of it?

Use of the stage.  Use different parts of the stage to make the story a physical journey.  An area of the stage may represent a goal; you can point towards it when you refer to it then move into it when you describe achieving it.

Avoid inviting a response to a question - The prepared speaker proposed a question to the audience and an answer was shouted out that did not support his point.  It was suggested that rhetorical questions should be open question that invites the audience to reflect on a topic rather than prompting them for an answer. “What gives you the right to …?”

Leading a debate - At one stage Simon was asked “What is the difference between persuasion and selling?”, rather then attempting to answer he asked for a show of hands for “they’re the same” and “they’re different” then asked members of each group for their thoughts before inviting the original questioner to comment. What an excellent technique for answering questions that you don’t know the answer to, or tackling a question with a subjective or non-existent answer.

Second Half: Demonstrate your points effectively

Stories - Simon reminded us that Stories are an effective way of making points.  He suggested that powerful stories “place our audience in the scene”, meaning that the audience should imagine themselves in the situation you’re describing.  He describe some points for doing this effectively:

  • Use the word “you” - A reactive word that causes the audience to take note
  • Give your characters dialogue - You can be a lot more forceful or critical when you are “repeating” what someone else has said.

Branding your idea - Can your point be distilled into a single sentence of less than ten words?  Can you repeat this phrase three or more times during the speech? Like Obama’s “Yes we can”.

At the end of the presentation Simon asked two questions (I badly paraphrase). “Which ONE of the points discussed tonight will you incorporate into future speeches?” “What would be the result of not taking notice of any of the points?” Those two questions were very persuasive in their own right and I would invite you to reflect on them now.

Toastmasters speech no.1: Icebreaker

[UPDATE Feb 11 2010] I now have a dedicated blog about public speaking. You can and read an updated version of this article and watch more of my speeches.

For the past few weeks I’ve been busy working on my first speech for my public speaking club: London Cardinals which is part of Toastmasters International.

I mentioned that I have been preparing in my previous post.

Now that I have written and performed my speech I would like to reflect on some of the things that I have learned from the experience.

But before I do that here is a recording of the speech.  I cringe when I watch it, but I’m glad it’s been recorded for posterity. (Bofore watching understand that this speech is intended to introduce yourself to the other club members and most Toastmasters speeches begin with the greeting “Mr Toastmaster, fellow Toastmasters and most welcome guests”).

Choosing the topic

The purpose of your first speech in toastmasters is to introduce yourself to the club.  The best icebreakers I’ve seen have contained personal stories.  The worst icebreakers I’ve heard have listed timeline of events starting at their birth.

I chose to talk about my experiences living in a student house in the second year of university.  This period of my life is rich with amusing stories and the topic provides scope to introduce plenty of personal background.

Writing

I wrote an initial draft in DarkRoom. I love this program as it allows you to write without being constantly distracted by incorrect spelling notifications, word count, or opening “print-preview” to see how much you’ve written.

After a couple of disjoint drafts I realised that I wanted a “point” to the speech rather than a collection of loosely related anecdotes.  This basically involved retrofitting a “moral” over the top of the stories I already had.  I eventually decided on “…therefore you should try and make friends with your neighbours” (thanks to Martin Smith for that suggestion).  Streamlining became much easier after this: if the story was unrelated it was cut.

I found that writing for a speech is very different to normal writing.  Things that looked fine on the page would sound really confused and too verbose when read out loud.  And the stuff that sounded the best was invariably short, simple sentences.

I found it was important to experiment out loud before commiting to the page.  Initially I was just reading back paragraphs after I had drafted them on the screen.  This would lead to clunky, unnatural tongue-twisters.

I received some extremely helpful feedback in a long phone call with my mentor after sending him a draft:

  • Lots and lots of positive enforcement.
  • He pointed out a couple of uses of inappropriate language: “sexually frustrated” and “Turn your f-ing music off” (”f-ing” doesn’t really conceal the non-shortened word well enough).  So I reworked those.
  • Some pure gold advice: if you ask the audience a question, ask the inverse as-well to make everyone feel included.  ”Who here is friends with their neighbours?” was paired with “Whose relationship with their neighbours has room for improvement?”.  And raise your left hand when you ask the question makeing it more likely that all those right handed people in the audience will “mirror” your gesture and raise their own hand.
  • We discussed the art of telling a good story, specifically “The Hero’s Journey”: a commonly used story structure.

Learning

Using notes in a speech doesn’t look impressive.  Having index cards is better than a piece of A4 flapping around, but you still have to break eye contact to read them and it restricts what you can do with your hands.  My intention with this speech was not to use notes.

It only took a day to commit to memory.  I was quite surprised by this, I had started learning it two weeks in advance.

In the morning I decided to see how far I could get through my speech without referring to my notes.  If I couldn’t remember something I skipped on to a part I could remember. And I recorded myself, then listened back to it while checking it against the original text. (Top tip from my mentor: listen back at twice the speed to save time.) At this stage I edited a few sentences to make them simpler and easier to remember.  After doing this a few times I was able to recite the whole speech without notes.  Initially there were some long pauses as I struggled to remember the next line, but these went away the more I practiced.

Presenting in front of someone was a different matter entirely.  I presented it to my girlfriend over skype, with my heart beating twice the speed the whole way through.  Then I presented it to my friend (thanks again Martin!) in my living room, after three false starts I managed to get through the whole thing.  I realised that as long as I could recall the first few paragraphs the rest would flow.

On the night

I went through the speech about six times while walking to the club, attracting some odd looks.  Sitting through the table topics section helped to keep my mind off the speech, and get me in a happy mood.  Then during the break I went outside and ran though the entire speech again.

Waiting to be introduced and walking up to the front seemed to take forever, and as the clapping died away and I knew I had to say something I just hoped for the best and got on with it.

The feedback afterwards was fantastic.  I had a spot on and really funny evaluation (”first recommendation: don’t ever admit you were born in Liverpool”), and lots of people took the time to give me their feedback slips amidst a torrent of positivity.

It was great fun and I’m looking forward to my number two speech.

Breaking the Ice

Having been the member of the London Cardinals Toastmasters‘ club for a couple of months now I’ve had the opportunity to watch several accomplished public speakers including a UK and Ireland champion.  I’ve done a couple of table topics - short impromptu speeches - however the dreaded “icebreaker” is approaching (booked for December 15th).  The icebreaker gives toastmasters the opportunity to introduce themselves to the club in a five minute pre-prepared speech which is timed, evaluated and will likely be delivered in front of an audience of 30+ people.

The standard of icebreakers I have seen so far has been pretty spectacular.  I think the general skill level within the club encourages members to go the extra mile.  And for that reason I have been wracking my brain for ideas and searching for good resources to help me out.  The kind of speeches I have most enjoyed (and most want to copy) are ones that tell stories that draw the audience in and have them hanging on every word.  Thankfully, as the internet has advice about everything in the world ever, there are some good resources to hear stories and get advice about how to tell them:

 

This American Life - has become an addiction of mine recently.  Each hour long podcast contains a selection of esoteric stories, loosely related to a theme.

 

Ira Glass discussing story telling on YouTube - Ira Glass, the presenter of This American Life, discusses what makes a good story.

 

The Moth - A performance venue in New York which has a podcast of recorded short stories delivered on-stage, live, without notes.

 

I’ve been busy writing an speech about the flat I lived in during my second year of university and the people who lived next door (specifically “Psycho Guy”).  Some funny stuff happened that year.  My main approach so far has been to unload all my ideas into Gmail and add to them whenever I have a flash of inspiration - but by far the biggest problem I’m having is deciding what details to leave out to give the story better structure and pace. I’ll post it up here when I’m done - and it will be filmed so if you’re lucky there may be some YouTube action too.